Modesty- Guys vs. Gals
Jul 9, 2014 1:15:54 GMT -7
Post by Akua on Jul 9, 2014 1:15:54 GMT -7
(originally posted on thesaltcollective.org/modesty-whensuitsbecomestumblingblock/)
There has been a lot of talking, debating, and hand-wringing among Christian bloggers lately about modesty; particularly yoga pants, making men uncomfortable by being attractive, and in general, ways in which to combat everyone’s favorite “evil”: lust.
Well, I’d like to hop on the modesty bandwagon and discuss something that I have personally struggled with for many, many years.
[deep breath]
Suits.
Specifically, men in suits.
Yes, folks: I struggle with lusting after men in suits.
I want to be brutally honest about this struggle. As young-ish, heterosexual woman who is trying to keep her thoughts pure and her eyes on Jesus, I have to say…every day, EVERY DAY, is a battle.
Every time I pass a man in a well-tailored suit, I try to keep my eyes averted to avoid the evil, lustful thoughts that will surely creep into my head. Sometimes I’m successful. Other times…I’m in an office building and I find my senses assaulted by a sea of men in strutting around in well-tailored suits, smelling of cologne and after-shave and…….
[gazes out the window]
Don’t these men have any self respect? Do they even understand how their clothing affects me? I wonder what is going through men’s heads when they decide to dress this way. All I know is that when a man wears a nice suit with pants that are juuuust tight enough, I will notice.
Therefore I am issuing a plea to my brothers in Christ for an understanding of where I’m coming from. When you choose to exist in public looking well-groomed and sharp, you are basically extending an invitation for me to lust after you.
Listen, as a woman I’m an emotional creature. I want to feel protected and safe, and nothing screams “I am a MAN and I will protect you” like a suit and tie. I can’t help it, that’s just how I’m wired.** It’s science. LOOK IT UP.
Now I know what you might be saying: “Well, isn’t it YOUR responsibility to control your thoughts around men?”
Of COURSE. We are all called to rid our thoughts of lust. But again, as my brothers in Christ, is it asking too much of you to simply be more attentive to what you wear?
Perhaps, instead of chastising me for not having enough self control, you could take a good hard look at what’s in your closet and then ask yourself: “Is my wardrobe advertising something that is not for sale?”
- See more at: thesaltcollective.org/modesty-whensuitsbecomestumblingblock/#sthash.Nfm4PZBj.dpuf
This post is hilarious, and I was only able to post like 1/4 of the entire thing. But I hope that you guys are able to read the entire article and form your opinion... What do you think about this issue, though? Is the author valid in her reasoning? Should guys be held up to the same modest scrutiny that many Christian girls are held to? What's the whole big deal about being modest, anyway, especially if such modesty is ridden with double standards?
What say you?
There has been a lot of talking, debating, and hand-wringing among Christian bloggers lately about modesty; particularly yoga pants, making men uncomfortable by being attractive, and in general, ways in which to combat everyone’s favorite “evil”: lust.
Well, I’d like to hop on the modesty bandwagon and discuss something that I have personally struggled with for many, many years.
[deep breath]
Suits.
Specifically, men in suits.
Yes, folks: I struggle with lusting after men in suits.
I want to be brutally honest about this struggle. As young-ish, heterosexual woman who is trying to keep her thoughts pure and her eyes on Jesus, I have to say…every day, EVERY DAY, is a battle.
Every time I pass a man in a well-tailored suit, I try to keep my eyes averted to avoid the evil, lustful thoughts that will surely creep into my head. Sometimes I’m successful. Other times…I’m in an office building and I find my senses assaulted by a sea of men in strutting around in well-tailored suits, smelling of cologne and after-shave and…….
[gazes out the window]
Don’t these men have any self respect? Do they even understand how their clothing affects me? I wonder what is going through men’s heads when they decide to dress this way. All I know is that when a man wears a nice suit with pants that are juuuust tight enough, I will notice.
Therefore I am issuing a plea to my brothers in Christ for an understanding of where I’m coming from. When you choose to exist in public looking well-groomed and sharp, you are basically extending an invitation for me to lust after you.
Listen, as a woman I’m an emotional creature. I want to feel protected and safe, and nothing screams “I am a MAN and I will protect you” like a suit and tie. I can’t help it, that’s just how I’m wired.** It’s science. LOOK IT UP.
Now I know what you might be saying: “Well, isn’t it YOUR responsibility to control your thoughts around men?”
Of COURSE. We are all called to rid our thoughts of lust. But again, as my brothers in Christ, is it asking too much of you to simply be more attentive to what you wear?
Perhaps, instead of chastising me for not having enough self control, you could take a good hard look at what’s in your closet and then ask yourself: “Is my wardrobe advertising something that is not for sale?”
- See more at: thesaltcollective.org/modesty-whensuitsbecomestumblingblock/#sthash.Nfm4PZBj.dpuf
This post is hilarious, and I was only able to post like 1/4 of the entire thing. But I hope that you guys are able to read the entire article and form your opinion... What do you think about this issue, though? Is the author valid in her reasoning? Should guys be held up to the same modest scrutiny that many Christian girls are held to? What's the whole big deal about being modest, anyway, especially if such modesty is ridden with double standards?
What say you?